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What I Am Grateful For by Misha Lyuve

Nov 24, 2011

Gratitude is one of the most joyful states of being. And when I manage to isolate the feeling of being grateful from the rest of the noise in my head, it is truly bliss-like.

This is what I am grateful for:

- that there is never a boring moment in my life

- that my life today was unimaginable a year before

- that I am soaked in love

- that miracles happen all the time

- that ideas come and come in abundance

- that the world is big enough to explore for a lifetime, or a few

- that opportunities to learn don’t ever give me a break

- that I have luck for kind strangers

- that special moments of love and intimacy flower on my tree

What are you being grateful for?

Chatter Clutter: an Invitation to an Experiment by Misha Lyuve

Nov 18, 2011

Silence by Yolanda Naranjo

We are over-worded and under-communicated species.

How much of what we say in a day is not needed to be said and not adding value to anything or anyone? The stream of unconscious blurbs is spurting out of our mouths – no wonder we are so tired at the end of the day.

Everybody has opinions and can’t wait to share them. But even those opinions that make you feel very passionate rarely matter. Same goes for sarcastic remarks, judgments, gossip and mere observations – most of them are just words with little meaning, no intention and lack of purpose.

These words are clutter to our ears, minds and lives. They create walls behind which we can’t see, hear or feel; we turn blind, deaf and numb even in our relationship with ourselves.

I am inviting you to join a simple one-week experiment: Talk less. Or be silent.

Pause before talking and ask yourself whether what’s on your mind in fact has to be said (any of it? a portion of it?)

Don’t hesitate to cut yourself in the middle of a sentence and shut up.

Don’t be afraid to take yourself out of a meaningless conversation (there are many ways to do it gracefully).

Don’t rush to fill pauses in conversations. Even if they seem “uncomfortable”, just let them be: stuffing them with words doesn’t resolve anything.

Being in silence is ok and could even be profound. (Watch out for checking out.)

Listen. Instead of planning what to say next, while the other speaks, listen. By the way, they are starved to be listened to; it could be one of the biggest gifts you can give.

See what emerges. Share what happens.

Wisdom of Obscurity from Tao Te Ching by Misha Lyuve

Nov 9, 2011

Contractions pulls at that

which extends too far

Weakness pulls at that

which strengthens too much

Ruin pulls at that

which raises to high

Loss pulls at life

when you fill it with too much stuff

from Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching, Verse 36, translated by Jonathan Star 

Inspirational Quotes: Terms of Use (OR Alternatives to Lack of Imagination) by Misha Lyuve

Nov 8, 2011

There was a time when inspirational quotes were refreshing and maybe even inspiring. But as one would get tired of eating even their most favorite dish daily, my dear social media junkies, I admit: when I see another inspirational quote, I’m close to experiencing nausea.

So here are a few thoughts

If an inspirational quote you read has in fact moved you to do something useful, or at least changed your view of life or enhanced your experience – please do share about that. After all Ghandis and Marin Luther Kings of the world didn’t specialize in producing easy-to-post-on-facebook inspiring quotations – those people lived some amazing lives: mostly because they did amazing things, not talked about them using someone else’s words.

If you indeed have a burning desire to share an opinion about a topic and you’re worried that you lack eloquence of a 19th century poet or whomever else you admire – give yourself a chance: if you were able to appreciate someone else’s words, with some effort you are likely to be able to come up with something decent that is yours. And even if you fail, at least you will get to practice.

If while reading, you bump into a sentence or a paragraph that expresses something about something in a way you can never say and it is dying to be shared – then just do so!

If all above fails, there is always an option of reposting quotes of others.

In the end, this is really not about the quotes. It is about trivializing life and devaluating wisdom. (Feel free to quote this).

For poets by Misha Lyuve

Nov 5, 2011