Top things to consider before the end of the world (#1) by Misha Lyuve

May 25, 2011

judgement day may 21, 2011 

If I were a bit smarter and faster, I would’ve come up with this posting before May 21st. But I think these can still be handy for the next apocalypse prediction or our finite lives in general.

#1. Forgive

As a wise someone said “resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”  Forgiveness is not forgetting or pretending that something didn’t happen. Forgiveness is giving up the right to hold whatever happened against the other.  So whatever happened – happened, but now is not impacting how you relate to the other.

It sounds really great and simple on paper, but can be one of the god-damn-it hardest things to do. As someone who harvested a few resentments in this lifetime, one thing I learned for sure: as hard as it is, the reward for forgiveness is priceless – like dropping a 100lb backpack off your own shoulders and most likely off someone else’s too. Stuff like love, affinity and intimacy are common side effects. But let me not over-sell this – you probably know yourself.

The question is how to start? Probably with the person who is floating up into your mind as you’re reading this.

Forgiveness most of the time requires an action – like having a conversation and most likely the kind of conversation that is a little scary to have, where you’re vulnerable, taking a risk and not knowing the outcome. Even a consideration to forgive someone will likely be met with loud voices “why bother?”, “they will never get it”, “I can do without them”,  “I tried it already”.

The voices will argue hard, will try to scare you, will bring you evidence from the past. Has it been forever that they kept this relationship or a situation in a status quo, that’s so painfully lifeless and chokingly boring? I say don’t listen to them. Have the conversation anyway. Forgive anyway.

More to follow……….

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