Apology and alternatives by Misha Lyuve

Feb 12, 2013

Love isn’t something natural. Rather it requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It isn’t a feeling, it is a practice.” ― Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving

I used to be a Valentine’s day hater. In fact, I might owe you an apology, since I considered those who celebrate it pathetic losers. I am sorry. Now I acknowledge that any reminder of expression of love has value. And as far as I am concerned, every day should carry spirit of thanks-giving and loving. Even though I still can’t stand most commercial aspects of the Valentine’s day, it has its opportunities.

So I say – screw red roses, heart-shaped chocolates and synthetic teddy bears. Here are a few alternatives for Valentine’s day agenda, whether you’re a single or a couple:

Watch “Amour”, a French movie about a retired couple that explores their relationship and love through a chain of events in their lives. This movie doesn’t boast sexy scenes nor will it leave you warm and fuzzy. But if you want to learn about love and human’s capacity for it, watch this movie. Apart from the depth of the exploration and masterful acting, “Amour” is likely have you ponder, in a very practical way, on important and mostly unavoidable questions of living

Go on a wild adventure of exploring “The Art of Loving” by a social philosopher Erich Fromm. “Is love an art? Then it requires knowledge and effort.” It’s a thin book, but I am not at all suggesting you read it in one sitting, instead read a few pages a day, preferable out loud whether to yourself or to your love interest, savor it.

And lastly (I am warning you that I might not be the most objective judge here), if you don’t have time for movies and don’t like to read books, I am offering you the best possible Valentine’s gift ever and an easy way to put a smile on someone’s face or warm their heart.  Share love, share this video.

Love is awesome, Love is precious, Love is gay

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  1. Heulwen Renshaw

    Happy Valentine’s Day! (although I have bought ‘myself’ some chocolates to celebrate, my two g’daughters will share with me!) ;)

  2. Leonora Sterina

    So awesome, Misha n Misha.
    Y menia poehala krisha
    Ot etoy lubvi.
    I’ve got fuzzy v krovi.
    Love is gay…
    Oy, vey…lol